I don’t understand how things can change so fast. I have a lot of guy friends, and they all seem to flit from girlfriend to girlfriend and gain and lose interest in different girls so quickly I can barely keep up. I have this one friend who’s notorious for it—forever chasing after girls. I think he’s in it mostly for that very thing: the chase. He laments a lot about how he can never “succeed,” but really I think he’s like the Joker when he said, “I’m a dog chasing cars. I wouldn’t know what to do with one of I caught one.” I think he likes the idea of a lot of girls, but in reality he likes being able to go after whoever he wants for as long as he wants.
With some of my other guy friends, it’s more of a relationship status switch situation—they declare they’re officially with a girl, that they’re her boyfriend and everyone else needs to back off from their girlfriend, and then three weeks later they’re through. It’s just ?????? (Yes. My emotion is literally “??????”) I guess I can’t really wrap my head around the idea of openly committing to something and then just as openly ditching that commitment. I understand that teens are hella fickle. Especially when it comes to who-likes-who. I get that. But to me, it’s like DAMNIT, if you didn’t think it’d go for more than month, then WHY BOTHER????????? Doesn’t it get tiring to constantly be in a state of flux? I dunno. I guess it works for them.
Then I’ve got guy friends who fall into neither of these categories. Instead, they genuinely pursue a girl only to have her decide he’s not right for her and crush his heart through some impersonal means of communication (read: texting). I don’t blame the girls in this situation any more or less than I blame boys (that is to say, not at all). It’s human nature to change your mind, after all. But I do think that if any two people are gonna end an established relationship, they should do it in person. It’s the best thing for both people.
So this isn’t a criticism of people who go through brief relationships or change their minds. It’s just me trying to sort out my thoughts—and in the end, I think that I’ll continue with my policy of never commenting or interfering with other people’s business. All I know for sure is that I definitely don’t understand how relationships can start and end faster than a flash sale—I like knowing everything ahead of time and planning thins methodically, and that sort of sudden change doesn’t gel with my kind of thinking. It’s just how I feel.